In Lust with a Narcissist
He feeds on praises
pumps his chiseled chest—
proud of his body obsession.
pumps his chiseled chest—
proud of his body obsession.
Pampers himself with exotic vacations
lavish lotions—
sunbathed skin all year.
lavish lotions—
sunbathed skin all year.
He arouses me with threads
of woven lies—
spins me around
intoxicated by his attention.
of woven lies—
spins me around
intoxicated by his attention.
He washes promises away
with my favorite imported soap—
lathers my scent clean
while he gleams.
with my favorite imported soap—
lathers my scent clean
while he gleams.
Summer roses fade—
I find myself again consumed
by his disguise
kiss his lips drown and slip.
I find myself again consumed
by his disguise
kiss his lips drown and slip.
Left with gnawed ache—
what I experienced
all fake.
what I experienced
all fake.
Narcyz -- Ludwig von Hofmann
In 1898 English psychologist Havelock Ellis, referencing the Greek myth about Narkissos, who fell in love with his own reflection in a pool and, unable to look away, was transformed into a narcissus, used the term "Narcissus-like" in reference to excessive masturbation, whereby the person becomes his or her own sex object. In the following year German psychiatrist/criminologist Paul Näcke coined the term "narcissism" to describe someone who treated his body as a sexual object. In 1909 Sigmund Freud told the Vienna Psycho-Analytical Society that narcissism was a necessary intermediate stage between auto-erotism and object-love; 2 years later Otto Rank wrote a psychoanalytical paper devoted to the subject, linking it to vanity and self-admiration. In 1914 Sigmund Freud developed his own paper, "On Narcissism: An Introduction;" although that was the only paper he wrote devoted exclusively to the subject, narcissism became central to his system. To him, "primary narcissism" was "the libidinal complement to the egoism of the instinct of self-preservation," while "secondary narcissism" arose "through the drawing on of object-cathexes as a secondary one, superimposed upon a primary narcissism," when the libido withdraws from objects outside the self ..., producing a relationship to social reality that includes the potential for megalomania." In 1923, in "Ich und Du" (I and You), philosopher Martin Buber posited that narcissism may lead people to relate to others as objects instead of as equals.
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