I Was The Child #3
Smells, sounds to give one pleasure,
Measured powerless,
Pain with not a word to say it.
Then came humor, ways to play it.
Grace? Luck?
Karma from some ‘tucked away?
Codes beyond the code of gene?
Treasure trunk, fossil junk,
Jewels of renewals?
What took this child who never smiled
I, the child who never smiled,
Who, in this Iron Age of Endings,
Smiles while wendings
Of the dark nights of the soul
I was the child
Who never smiled.
I was the one
Who had no fun
In child activity.
What a nativity!
Who had no fun
In child activity.
What a nativity!
Smells, sounds to give one pleasure,
Measured powerless,
Pain with not a word to say it.
Then came humor, ways to play it.
Grace? Luck?
Karma from some ‘tucked away?
Codes beyond the code of gene?
Treasure trunk, fossil junk,
Jewels of renewals?
What took this child who never smiled
Someplace
Where mystic thing, (itself a rare thing)
Wedged oyster-locked pearl-girl abruptly
Wedged oyster-locked pearl-girl abruptly
Free to laugh spontaneously, seeing
Transcendental truths which suddenly, intuitively
Gave form to life and breath.
I, the child who never smiled,
Who, in this Iron Age of Endings,
Smiles while wendings
Of the dark nights of the soul
Have turned to winding roads that hint of goal.
Child gone, day dawn,
This mystery-cum-wait-and-see
Is me come into setting three.
Child gone, day dawn,
This mystery-cum-wait-and-see
Is me come into setting three.
Alfred Adler, who had been one of the charter members of the psychoanalytic movement but was the 1st significant member to split from the group to establish what he called "individual psychology," was 1 of the 1st to suggest that birth order influences personality. He believed firstborns are "dethroned" when a 2nd child comes along, and thus loses his feeling of privilege and primacy. Middle children may feel ignored or overlooked, while younger (and only) children are often pampered and spoiled. In 1966 Frank J. Sulloway further developed the theory, claiming that younger children work harder to get parental attention, take more risks, and become creative rebels. However, most clinical studies find little evidence in support.
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